QOM – July Posted July 1, 2016 by NationalSAVE

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July’s Question of the Month:  “How can you encourage someone not to join a  Gang?  Does your SAVE Chapter address the Gang issue? And if so, how?”  

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  • Devin Philipps July 20, 2016 at 3:32 am

    If you know someone who is considering joining a gang, you should first reach out to that persons parents or guardian and tell them. You should then talk to them and tell them all the negative consequences of gangs and perhaps show them some news articles about what gangs have done. Some people may not know how serious joining a gang can be and they may feel that they need to join one for whatever reason. I feel that you should also learn the persons reasons for joining the gang for getting a better understanding of that person too.

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  • Kaleigh Wright July 11, 2016 at 12:09 pm

    If someone you know is considering joining a gang, it’s time to step in or have an adult step in. Let them know that there are always people there for them, the gang won’t only put you in danger but also any family, and there is no way out of a gang when you join (it’s for life). Sadly, our chapter has never addressed the gang issue before because it is not a big issue in our area. But, it will be our mission to at least address it in the future.

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  • Marjorie Lam July 11, 2016 at 2:50 am

    Joining a gang is almost a life contract. Once you join, you have to option to quit. For every mistake you make, not only are you held accountable, but so are the people you love most. Consider the dangers you put your loved ones at. It may be tempting to join a group of people that make it seem like they are your family, but remember that they are only your family when there is something in it for them. In that “contract” you eliminate yourself from a world full of freedom and possibilities. Gangs are for people who feel like they need a place in this society; we all have our place and that place is never in a gang.

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  • Macey July 10, 2016 at 8:42 pm

    Also, it is important to remember that once you join a gang it is very hard to get out of it. Joining a gang can have very serious “initiations” as well. For example, some gangs can force you to kill a person to join or have a near death experience.

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  • Macey July 10, 2016 at 8:37 pm

    Gangs are very dangerous and intricate; I think the best way to encourage someone not to join a gang is to show them the other side of the “gang life”. It is not all about having a lot of money and pals to count on, half of the time you can get used or killed. Gangs are very dangerous and I think the best way is to study up on gangs so that when you are describing gang life to them you are well educated on it. After, I think it is best to tell them what goes on in gangs rather then just the “cool” things they hear about in school. In my SAVE chapter we have never really had to address gangs because there are not any where I live, but we encourage good decisions and to stay safe.

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  • Melquan Deas July 10, 2016 at 8:09 pm

    A way you can encourage someone not to join a gang is invite them to a sporting activity that happening in your school. Because last year I did it my-self once i saw this boy in class and he won’t talk to nobody and the coach told the team to find people to join the team. and i ask him and at first he said no, then he can looking for me and he join the team and now he not apart of the gang he was in and I was proud of my-self since that day forward.

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  • Rhiannon Potwin July 8, 2016 at 3:54 pm

    It is important to understand why people do things. If you learn why something is happening you will be able to figure out a way to solve the problem. To encourage someone not to join a gang you have to help them solve the problem. I think it’s important to explain the danger they put themselves and their friends and family in. Our school had people come in and talk to us about the signs of people being in a gang. If by chance we see these signs we talk to our SAVE chapter head so they can keep an eye on things and insure the safety of all students.

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  • Taleek Harlee July 6, 2016 at 10:37 pm

    You can encourage someone not to join a gang by exposing them to the dangers of being a gang member. Telling them that they have value other than being in a gang and that they have a higher purpose. Checking out the peers that they hang out with make sure there not gang members. Spend time with the youth, this will make them seem valued and important. Make sure to put high regards on there education, make them feel good when they do something well.

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  • Kaitlyn Wade July 2, 2016 at 7:22 pm

    Before confronting anyone about joining a gang, it would be best to first assess why said person is going to join a gang. After all, we all may have a reason for doing something. It would be best to gently question the person in order to find out the reason they may join. People purposefully join gangs in order to; possibly gain popularity, hide and seek a form of safety, fulfill an emptiness they hold, etc. OR there may be an underlying reason here the person may be forcefully put into the position to join a gang, such as; family peer pressure, bullying into joining a gang, friend peer pressure, or force from a gang. Carefully analyze all evidence to said person’s predicament and try to persuade into defeat. Comfort the person, they may be going through a lot and you may not even know it. Help them understand that they are not alone, help the healing process. You may not win all of your battles, some people will refuse and rebuke, do your best to your ability. Don’t force them, if you force too much upon them, you’re no better than the others through peer pressure if you inflict it into a negative manner. My school’s S.A.V.E chapter does address this issue and teach lessons to all of the appropriate grade levels 4-12 about gangs, signs of gangs, how to prevent gangs from causing too much trouble, and how to talk to someone to dissuade them from joining a gang.

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  • Mamie Frank July 11, 2015 at 2:43 am

    Someone seeking to join a gang is likely seeking a sense of belonging to a group. A healthy alternative to this it to join local clubs or organizations. If someone is looking to join a gang, suggest that they consider volunteer work, joining a club, or even just invite them into your group of friends. They may be unaware of the often permanent detrimental consequences of joining a gang. Inform them of these risks and consequences and suggest the alternative of joining a positive cause.

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  • Sarah Spradlin July 10, 2015 at 7:33 pm

    There are many ways to encourage someone not to join a gang, for example I would show them all the negative and bad out comes gangs have. There are too many dangerous things that happen in a gang! I would tell them about SAVE and other encouraging and uplifting groups. I would like them to join a group that will help them not a gang that would end up hurting them!

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  • Jordan German July 10, 2015 at 3:48 pm

    A way to encourage someone not to join a gang is to tell them all the risks of being in a gang. And encourage them to join a positive active group or club that are good for themselves, schools, and their comunity.

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  • Gabrielle Allen-Destroismaisons July 9, 2015 at 11:17 pm

    Encouraging someone to not join a gang can be done by analyzing the pros and cons of such a decision with them. You can tell that person nice things about themselves and tell them that they are above joining a gang and the possible consequences associated with this action. A great way to dissuade someone from joining a gang is to encourage them to engage in positive activities. This can be done by inviting the at-risk person to SAVE meetings, volunteer opportunities, etcetera. My SAVE chapter has not really addressed the gang issue directly, but many of our activities have involved lifting people up so that they feel good about themselves in a positive way. This is imperative so that everyone feels that they have a place in our school and our community and that they deserve to be free from violence and harm.

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  • Haley Abernathy July 6, 2015 at 1:27 pm

    Students may seek out gangs to have a sense of purpose or belonging. It is our responsibility to show them that there are better places, like SAVE, to find that sense of purpose. My club always speaks of our SAVE club as a group of close friends, even family, that helps students through tough times. We let the school know that our door is always open and our members are always willing to listen and help in anyway possible.

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  • Larissa Wilson July 6, 2015 at 6:47 am

    I would encourage people to really look deep into what gangs and gang member go through and do! They’re never good outcomes. People get killed and people go through horrific sacrifices just for that group! it’s pointless, a waste of time,and why risk your life to show/prove a point? My SAVE group encourages to stand against gangs and help prevent additional members.

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  • Maggie Adams July 5, 2015 at 1:27 am

    People join gangs for protection or to have a place they can feel like they belong. The best way to encourage someone not to join a gang is to get them involved in other activities, such as a sport or club either inside or outside of school. My SAVE chapter puts up posters around the school to inform students of the consequences of joining gangs and who to see if they need help.

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  • Jenny Suwanmanee July 3, 2015 at 3:29 am

    I would encourage someone not to join a gang by educating them on the danger and risks that are involved with it. I would also find them help for their particular situation and help them deal with any problems that they’re having and show them that there are other solutions to the problem. Although a gang can serve as a family and a place for someone to let go and connect with others, there are other ways for someone to get help and find people to connect to without joining a gang. Such as consulting with a counselor or therapist. Being in a gang comes with its risks for there might be rival gangs, conflict between gang members, or an event that puts someone’s life at risk which can lead to fatal consequences and it’s not worth losing a life for.

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  • Rose Le July 2, 2015 at 7:53 am

    Educate him/her on what gangs really do and the severity of consequences. Most people consider joining gangs to find a place where they belong and matter.After educating him/her on how a gang is no where close to that, the best thing to do is introducing him/her to organizations and groups that will give him/her the meaningful experience he/she was seeking for. My SAVE chapter addresses this issue by putting up posters around the school that contain information all about gangs and much more.

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  • Kaleigh wright July 1, 2015 at 4:51 pm

    If I knew someone who was considering being in a gang I would tell them that it isn’t worth it, there are no benefits from joining but only losses. Many people get hurt from gangs because they see it as a way to fit in but Gangs are about violence and not friendship. If anyone knows someone thinking about joining a gang notify them about the risks and be there for them, don’t let them join just to get hurt in the end.

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  • Abigail Lawson July 15, 2014 at 5:29 pm

    If I knew someone that wanted to join a gang, I would tell them that’s it’s not worth it. Gangs don’t determine who you are or your self worth. Gangs also aren’t about just having friends or giving them a status in their social life. Being in a gang is all about violence and other dangerous things teens or anyone shouldn’t be involved in.

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  • Braedan Weart July 15, 2014 at 4:15 pm

    I would first help them realize that joining a gang isn’t all that cool and what it’s all hyped up to be. I would then help them realize that joining a gang could lead almost encourage problems or conflicts between gang members, and that’s something you do not want to go onto your record. I would help substitute joining again maybe with joining a gang with joining a local youth group or a local service community project type thing. Something that will benefit the community when it’s all said and done.

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  • Anna Chataginer July 9, 2014 at 11:23 pm

    I would tell a person who was looking to join a gang or being pressured to join one that being in a gang shouldn’t define what you life is meant to be. I would suggest maybe look into joining a volunteer group or a school club to stay out of that life.

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  • Ariel Kantor July 9, 2014 at 9:33 pm

    I would encourage someone not to join a gang by showing them all the negative consequences that can come as a result. Additionally, if the reason they joined a gang was to fit in and be part of a group, I would show them the multitude of other groups they can join that are just as supportive without the negative and dangerous aspects that come from being part of a gang.

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